There are obvious hard things with fostering - the leaving. The taking care of kids that aren't yours. The rules. But there are a few things that I feel like took me a little by surprise, so I thought I would post them here, for anyone who might be interested in fostering.
The first one is the waiting. You say yes to a placement call. Then you get to wait anywhere from hours to days for them to actually arrive. The anticipation is overwhelming. The hardest wait is after you say yes to the next call from the worker saying when they are coming or when to come get them.
The other waiting no one talks about is on court days. I haven't needed to go to court yet. Once God whispers to my heart - this is the one you are supposed to keep- I will go to court. But that hasn't happened yet. I have offered repeatedly on other cases to go to court if they think it would be helpful or needed, and the answer has always been no. But the day of court as you wait for the worker to call you, you wish you would have gone, because YOU JUST WANT TO KNOW WHAT HAPPENED. Is my life turning upside down? Is everything staying the same? Did the parents show? Not show?
So the waiting. It's hard and one of my least favorite things about fostering. Next up (when I get around to posting it) - the not knowing.
Friday, May 3, 2013
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